Are you self-sabotaging your band? - Chelf
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Are you self-sabotaging your band?

Are you self-sabotaging your band?

Are you self-sabotaging your band?

Here are 12 signs and what to do instead.

You focus more on what’s going wrong rather than right.

What to do instead: Identify what’s going wrong and then focus on all the possible ways you can take action to fix it.

You avoid anything that may lead to a stronger commitment.

What to do instead: Make more disciplined and productive decisions that will get you out of your comfort zone. Understand that your commitment does not end with the decision; you must keep at it.

You constantly criticize other bands/musicians.

What to do instead: Cultivate a greater sense of acceptance. Criticizing can actually say more about you than it does about the person you’re criticising.

You hold grudges.

What to do instead: Realize that the music industry is a particularly difficult one and things can and will go wrong more so than often. 90% of those times, it’s not personal. Strengthen your professionalism and let it go.

You don’t network enough.

What to do instead: Start networking before you need it.

You constantly compare your band to other bands.

What to do instead: Water your own grass.


You often cancel rehearsals/gigs/meetups.

What to do instead: There is a saying that goes ‘80% of success in life is just showing up’. Make it a priority. I can’t stress this enough.

You put much more time and effort in other projects than into your band.

What to do instead: Eliminate distractions. The market is oversaturated, and we only have room for those truly committed.

You have unrealistic expectations.

What to do instead: Use the double-standard technique: What would you say to a band you admire in the same situation?

You don’t really believe in the band.

What to do instead: Move on. It’s game over, officially.

You try to do everything yourself.

What to do instead: Ask for help: it’s a grown-up’s game and it makes you look cool.

You don’t trust your bandmates.

What to do instead: Learn how to communicate effectively with others. You don’t need to become besties. You need to establish a safe working environment.

Good luck and rock on!
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