Fill the bathtub, light the candles, buy the flowers, steep the tea. Chick flick on. Sugar scrub, DIY face mask, cookie dough, bottles of strawberry-scented, peachy-pink potions perfectly aligned, waiting to participate in the ritual.
Are you not feeling the vibe?
Then keep reading, this article is for you.
Some girls may find all of the above heavenly delightful, which is perfectly fine, by all means. But for a substantial percentage of the girls out there, this is simply not the case, myself included. Even though I enjoy taking care of myself and I have my little daily rituals too, taking a whole day off to pamper myself rarely sounds appealing- more like a waste of time to be honest.
So, how does a tomboy practise self-care?
Here are a few non-girly ideas for the non-girly girls who still want to luxuriate in a proper treat. (Meg Ryan 90’s movies are ok by the way, no-one can resist those, not even us).
LISTEN TO THE SAME SONG ON REPEAT
Over and over again. It’s such a small action yet so weirdly satisfying and rewarding for some reason. On an average day, we don’t get to listen to that song we are obsessed with, as much as we want to, a.k.a until we get sick of it. We have no reason not to, yet we never do it, I suppose it’s a part of adulting and no one talks about it. So, give it a go and give me a nod in agreement.
TAKE A LONG DRIVE
Maybe it’s not the most environmentally friendly piece of advice I could give you, but we’ll do something nice, to make up for it, ok? Getting in the car and driving without a specific destination while you let your thoughts flow free, can be truly liberating. It’s almost like a meditative state, where it’s just you and the road that could take you anywhere as long as you keep driving.
GO TO A CONCERT ALONE
For some people attending an event alone sounds scary, but hear me out. Maybe going to a party or some sort of a social gathering would be indeed awkward for many. Going to a concert is completely different though, as you get to experience a rather chaotic situation where you would lose your friends anyway. Freely dance around, no one is watching. Have a care-free moment, sing along, let go of all the tension, listen to every lyric of your favourite song and just do your thing. For me going to concerts alone is an integral part of my job, I don’t even think of it. But, there was a time, when I was self-conscious and hesitant to go. Then I went and my whole mindset changed in an electrifying, bass-charged heartbeat.
HANG WITH THE BOYS
Some girls like the “one of the boys” mentality.
Simply co-exist in harmony, cracking jokes, have nachos, wash them down with a pint, super laid back, appreciating a bit of a lad time. Personally, I have been blessed with super cool girlfriends that I would not change for anyone in the world. That does not change the fact that I’ll always be “one of the guys” and I always fancy hanging out with them, in a brotherly manner. You can have and appreciate both. Stereotypes are for the weak.
…is the equivalent of a girly-girls shopping spree. Instead of hitting the mall and your wallet, choose a part of your house or room that would benefit from a good, old fashioned clear out. It could be your wardrobe, the bathroom cabinet, your email inbox, or that box under your bed. In a world full of material and virtual abundance, letting go of what we don’t actually need is empowering.