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What does fashion mean to you?

A way to express yourself in a creative and fun way? An unorthodox kind of reality escapism? A megaphone for your status quo or perhaps a plate armor to entirely encase you from the outside world?

I can tell you what it’s not:

It’s never just a piece of clothing, it’s never something that you just threw on and I have never ever met anyone whose clothes meant nothing.

There are two kinds of people.

The ones that acknowledge the fact and the ones that don’t.

The truth is that whether you are a Pinterest worthy fashionista, living for the day the new Armani collection will hit the stores, or a punk rocker manifesting a severe disregard for convention, you, in your own way, are still doing and using fashion to convey your message to the world.

In a way we are what we wear and we wear what we are.

Culture has always been reflected through fashion, as a non-verbal source of communication, an artful -or artless depending your point of view, code between you and everyone else in the world. So we wear our beliefs and that’s a global phenomenon, we communicate who we are and who we want to be with and whether we like it or not, we do label and categorize ourselves through a sartorial puzzle of garments that make up the way we look, the way others perceive us.

That phenomenon became clear to me when I was working in the food industry as a chef. We all wore uniforms and unless you saw me before I made my way to the changing rooms, you would have no clue about who I am, my personal preferences or my social status. Stripped from all my personal elements, you could only tell that I cook for a living and that I defy the laws of physic with my knife skills.

In the kind of a working environment where men would typically weren’t allowed to grow a beard or have long hair, where women had to put their hair up and change from their sexy bodycon dresses into a baggy uniform with long sleeves that would hide all sorts of tattoos and battle scars we were all the same.





This of course comes with a blend of ambivalent outcomes. On the one hand you might miss the chance to instantly identify the ones that have the exact same interests with you on the other you might end up getting to know all sorts of people that you otherwise wouldn’t in a million years. And get to learn from them, expand your horizons and feed an intensely inquisitive mind.

Speaking from experience, and I think I’ve mentioned this before, take me to a punk/metal venue and rest assured that I will be comfortable enough to make five new friends within an hour, as I take for granted that we have plenty in common and a bunch of stuff to talk about, including how “The Ramones” had a song for every letter of the alphabet. If you bend the rules for U, V, and X, that is.

But would I approach the girls with their lace skater dresses sipping expensive lattes at a hip café with the same lack of precaution? Probably not. At least the old version of me wouldn’t as I now strive for an open mind for a different view and nothing else matters.





In any case, if you think about it you will probably come to the same conclusion.

All dresses fearured in this post are by Fashionme

Until the next one,



  • Kate Loves Travel
    Posted at 15:51h, 10 August Reply

    I generally just put on what I feel like wearing when I get up… and if people choose to judge me on what I’m wearing then that’s their problem not mine!

  • Dennis Littley
    Posted at 16:25h, 10 August Reply

    I can see how in some ways fashion can be used as representation.

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:48h, 11 August Reply

      absolutely Dennis!

  • Christa
    Posted at 17:04h, 10 August Reply

    I agree, although I think there are a lot of people who subconsciously make their fashion choices.

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:47h, 11 August Reply

      Yes! Absolutely, we do act subconsciously when it comes to fashion and our daily routines!

  • Angela Tolsma
    Posted at 17:20h, 10 August Reply

    This is something I am struggling with because my life mainly consists of yoga clothes and I’ve missed dressing up and dolling up. Clothes definitely can make me interested in a person or not.

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:46h, 11 August Reply

      If you miss dressing up Angela, just go for it! Pamper yoursef and wear your fave dress and paint the town red!

  • Nicole
    Posted at 00:16h, 11 August Reply

    This is something g I try to instill in my Children. My husband will often dress them in Mismatched clothes or things that are stained and I will freak out. I think not only does personal style tell people about your likes and interests, I feel that neatness is a general sign of respect for yourself and others.

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:45h, 11 August Reply

      Hey Nicole!It depends. I’m not sure I agree with the matching concept. If wearing mismatched pieces of clothing is working out for you (or your kids in this case) I don’t see why no. But I’m with you regading the stains and neatness, it’s so important indeed!

  • Jennifer
    Posted at 01:49h, 11 August Reply

    I currently live in work out clothes lol. I’m trying to be better about dressing up. <3

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:43h, 11 August Reply

      If this is fitting in your current lifestyle Jennifer, just go with it and be comfy! I basically live in work out clothes and band tees as well.

  • Stephanie
    Posted at 02:14h, 11 August Reply

    Half of my clothes have designs that show my likes and interests. I let my boys pick their clothes. They are 3 and 5 years old and some days their clothes match and others are crazy, but it’s their choice and what they want to wear.

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:42h, 11 August Reply

      Exactly! Our clothes always reflect who we are or the mood we are in!

  • Maysz
    Posted at 04:52h, 11 August Reply

    Right now I’m gaining weight when I wear fit dress it looks me fat 🙁 but I’ve always being fashionista even I’m look fat that’s the meaning of true fashion. fashion is always present whoever who you are!

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:41h, 11 August Reply

      I bet you look fab in your fitted dresses no matter what!

  • Vox
    Posted at 12:45h, 11 August Reply

    I so agree! I used to dismiss fashion as frivolous, until I realized that it is like handshake for my beliefs. A person will decide who they think I am by what I wear. While this can be distressing to some, I began to use it as a way to advertise my brand and to ward off people who don’t care for my vibe. It’s been an extremely valuable tool. Thanks for sharing on an uncommon topic.

  • Cass
    Posted at 14:30h, 11 August Reply

    My choice in fashion and the amount of effort is totally dependent on my mood! Along with everything else, fashion is a personal thing and can mean so much to someone.

  • Ashlee Stuart
    Posted at 14:49h, 11 August Reply

    I definitely use my own personal style to not only show who I am, but sometimes how I am feeling as well. Those closest to me can almost read my mood based on what I have decided to wear that day. It took me a long time to find what I think is my personal style, but ever since I did, it has made the whole process of looking good and feeling great so much easier! Great post!


  • A
    Posted at 15:29h, 11 August Reply

    I like the photos, and the hole concept, great job!

  • Abbi Cain
    Posted at 20:56h, 11 August Reply

    These photos make me want to run out and shop! I love to be fashionable but fall into the yoga pants trap A LOT because I work from home. I am working on it though. Plus side: At least I almost never leave the house in yoga pants. 🙂

  • Thành Đạt
    Posted at 14:24h, 12 August Reply

    I studied in a school that required students to wear uniforms. That makes them unable to express their personality and interests through their fashion. And now, in another school, I have a great experience as all students have their own unique style. Thanks for the post ^^

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 11:40h, 13 August Reply

      Actually, I’m pro uniform when it comes to schools and working environments. I like the uniformity. I like that everyone is equal like that.

  • Safa
    Posted at 17:29h, 14 August Reply

    Lovely perspective! 🙂

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 10:46h, 15 August Reply

      thank you Safa

  • chels
    Posted at 18:08h, 14 August Reply

    Babe, I was JUST thinking about how fashion and what we wear means SO much more than people think. But I love your perspective on certain dress codes helping us “level the playing field” or so to speak with one another.

    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 10:46h, 15 August Reply

      YES! My thoughts exactly! You know what they say..great minds… 😉

  • Minh
    Posted at 11:55h, 21 July Reply


    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr
      Posted at 15:13h, 21 July Reply

      thank you

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