There are countless decent guides about dealing with stress out there, and there are certainly more qualified individuals than me to offer advice on this, but after doing some research for personal reasons ( a.k.a Help-I can’t-afford another panic attack now) I came to the conclusion that the ‘traditional’ methods of handling stress don’t really work for me so I had to tackle the situation differently.
Here is what works for me and I hope for you too:
1.What the experts suggest: Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and clear your mind.
What I do: Envision myself dealing with the situation.
Instead of taking a few minutes to take deep breaths ( never really worked for me when I’m under stress ) I take a few minutes to envision myself dealing with the situation that stressed me out in the first place.
The past year has been an emotional roller coaster for me. I’ve had 3 surgeries, the restaurant where I used to work as a head-chef closed down and I’ve started my own business as a full-time blogger on chelf.net
With limited resources and zero budget I have to be resourceful, focused and creative to get things done and grapple with the gazillion of problems that occur on a daily basis. And that caused stress, anxiety and an overall feeling of apprehension. So whenever something went overwhelmingly wrong I imagined myself dealing with the problem. Step by step, going to the doctors appointment, dealing with unreasonable customers, taking a test, whatever is the reason of your anxiety just envision the process of you, sucessfuly handling the situation. It’s an illusion that will give you a boost and convince you that, yes, you can handle that. And if you believe that you can, you will probably find a way to do it somehow.
2.What the experts suggest: Ask yourself how you got to this point.
What I ask myself: The “will it matter a year from now” Question.
It probably won’t. When we are stressed we often lose perspective and that gives rise to negative feelings. So by focusing on that single little thing which at the moment seems unbearable leads to forgetting the bigger picture. Most likely it’s not the end of the world and in a year from now you it won’t matter at all. Try reminding yourself that.
3.What the experts suggest: Remove yourself from the situation
What I do: Take fast action.
Without rushing into something irreversible, I prefer to engage in actions that will bring me closer to completing the project that is the cause of my anxiety at a given moment, no matter how dreadful it might be.Putting off impending tasks to a later time stresses me out even more . I write everything than needs to be done, down, and I start crossing things off my list which I find very, very satisfying.
4. What the experts say:Be present and establish a tangible goals and objectives to avoid stress.
What I do: All the above but also have a PLAN B.
Be positive and have faith in yourself but always assume that your plan A might not work. To me, that’s not being overly cautious. It’s offering yourself more than one options, just in case things don’t go as planned.
5. What both the experts and I suggest:Think that this experience will make you stronger no matter the outcome.
Traumatic as it may be, try to turn it around to your advantage. Succeeded or failed this time, it doesn’t matter. You lived and learned and now you can move on. This will potentially help you deal with future stressful sets of circumstances and by acknowledging that, you will instantly calm down a bit and feel better.
I hope you’ve found these helpful and I’d love to hear your thoughts and feedback! Keep in touch!