My Quirky Ways of Dealing with Stress

There are countless decent guides about dealing with stress out there, and there are certainly more qualified individuals than me to offer advice on this, but after doing some research for personal reasons ( a.k.a Help-I can’t-afford another panic attack now) I came to the conclusion that the ‘traditional’ methods of handling stress don’t really work for me so I had to tackle the situation differently.

Here is what works for me and I hope for you too:

1.What the experts suggest: Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and clear your mind.

What I do: Envision myself dealing with the situation.

Instead of taking a few minutes to take deep breaths ( never really worked for me when I’m under stress ) I take a few minutes to envision myself dealing with the situation that stressed me out in the first place.

The past year has been an emotional  roller coaster for me. I’ve had 3 surgeries, the restaurant where I used to work as a head-chef closed down and I’ve started my own business as a full-time blogger on chelf.net

With limited resources and zero budget I have to be resourceful, focused and creative to get things done and grapple with the gazillion of problems that occur on a daily basis. And that caused stress, anxiety and an overall feeling of apprehension. So whenever something went overwhelmingly wrong I imagined myself dealing with the problem. Step by step, going to the doctors appointment, dealing with unreasonable customers, taking a test, whatever is the reason of your anxiety just envision the process of you, sucessfuly handling the situation. It’s an illusion that will give you a boost and convince you that, yes, you can handle that. And if you believe that you can, you will probably find a way to do it somehow.

 

2.What the experts suggest: Ask yourself how you got to this point.

What I ask myself: The “will it matter a year from now” Question.

It probably won’t. When we are stressed we often lose perspective and that gives rise to negative feelings. So by focusing on that single little thing which at the moment seems unbearable leads to forgetting the bigger picture. Most likely it’s not the end of the world and in a year from now you it won’t matter at all. Try reminding yourself that.

 

3.What the experts suggest: Remove yourself from the situation

What I do: Take fast action.

Without rushing into something irreversible, I prefer to engage in actions that will bring me closer to completing the project that is the cause of my anxiety at a given moment, no matter how dreadful it might be.Putting off impending tasks to a later time stresses me out even more . I write everything than needs to be done, down, and I start crossing things off my list which I find very, very satisfying.

4. What the experts say:Be present and establish a tangible goals and objectives to avoid stress.

What I do: All the above but also have a PLAN B.

Be positive and have faith in yourself but always assume that your plan A might not work. To me, that’s not being overly cautious. It’s offering yourself more than one options, just in case things don’t go as planned.

 

5. What both the experts and I suggest:Think that this experience will make you stronger no matter the outcome.

Traumatic as it may be, try to turn it around to your advantage. Succeeded or failed this time, it doesn’t matter. You lived and learned and now you can move on. This will potentially help you deal with future stressful sets of circumstances and by acknowledging that, you will instantly calm down a bit and feel better.

 

I hope you’ve found these helpful and I’d love to hear your thoughts and feedback! Keep in touch!

xoxo,

Chelf.

 

 

8 Comments

  • Katerina February 10, 2017 at 3:54 pm

    Great post 🙂 I’m very much the same way in how I deal with stress.

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    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr February 10, 2017 at 5:05 pm

      Good to know I’m not the only one 😉

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  • Heather February 10, 2017 at 10:43 pm

    Great tips! I have a big problem dealing with stress as well to the point it has caused me severe stomach problems in the past. I try to live by the will it matter a year from now. I’ve found putting things into that perspective I really can picture that most things won’t!

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    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr February 11, 2017 at 9:17 am

      I’m so sorry to hear that! The ‘will it matter a year from now’ has helped me a lot too,puts things into perspective indeed!

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  • Todaysouhaila February 11, 2017 at 11:33 pm

    Grear article.I love the way you mentioned the experts view and yours.these tips seem helpful x

    Todaysouhaila.blogspot.com

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    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr February 11, 2017 at 11:43 pm

      Thanks for the feedback! Always happy to help <3

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  • Thivy Michelle February 12, 2017 at 3:05 am

    You’re stunning! I love your hair <3 I actually was planning on doing a blog post about stress so this was a very insightful!

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    • the_chelf@yahoo.gr February 12, 2017 at 12:59 pm

      Thank you gorgeous! You made my day <3 I'm actually a big fan of your blog as well!

      Reply

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