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Rewriting Cinderella

Rewriting Cinderella

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Once upon a time there were a bunch of real life heroines that decided they simply wanted to live up to their own expectations. To make up their own rules…

I was recently on an online shoe shopping spree for a pair of black gladiator heels for an event I had to attend, and I got carried away looking at all kinds of dreamy shoes, the kind of shoes that naughtily wink at you, glass slippers for postmodern wanderers. And it got me thinking. It got me thinking about the whole Cinderella thing and how we got it all wrong. Maybe it’s time to rewrite the story.

There was a girl, pretty and all, upon losing her mother she made a promise to be a good girl no matter what. Her father remarries and not only she ends up with an evil stepmother but she also gets two awful step sisters who are very successful at making her life a living hell. Three in one, what a bargain. Four if you count the stepmom’s cat whose name is Lucifer, go figure. While she runs all kinds of errands to stay humble while pleasing the evil ones, we find out that there’s a ball. And not any old random ball, a royal one because nobility matters.  And after putting up a royal fight to attend the ball, enlisting the help of all sorts of very realistic elements, such as awesome rodents and fairy godmothers, pumpkins that turn into carriages instead of desserts (I’d rather have my pumpkin pie and eat it too, thank you very much indeed) we madly fall in love with prince so-called charming who says we are the love of his life, then forgets what we look like and has to put a shoe on every girl in the kingdom. But we are so desperately looking to be saved that we get past the fact and move on to our happily ever after.

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Well, rethink.

Maybe we are not looking to be saved. Maybe we don’t feel the need to have a full make-over to be made pretty for a guy or a girl. Maybe we put on makeup simply because it’s fun and glitter looks good to us and compliments our gold gladiator heels.





Maybe we leave when things don’t work out instead of waiting around for a miracle.


And most of all maybe we believe in sisterhood

(and brotherhood for that matter).

I am struck by the vision of inequality that we teach our kids through fairy tales. The pretty ones and the ugly evil ones. The pushovers and the obtrusive ones. The hidden message is that you get to have an unvarying personality. As if people are whether good or bad. But the truth is personalities are multifaceted we all got both good and bad elements and frankly I don’t see why we cannot all join forces and be on the same team instead of putting each other down. Sisterhood. Brotherhood. Humanhood.

So maybe Cinderella and her step sisters were best friends. We may or may not believe in love at first dance and we can definitely be equally happy either way. Maybe we should rewrite the fairy tales and focus on how real queens fix each other’s crowns. How real kings help a brother out.

I finally found the prefect pair of gladiator heels, and I made it to the event. I came home early and watched the original Cinderella movie, because the thoughts kept coming back to me. And they still do.


This post was created in collaboration with FSJ Shoes while I was indeed looking for a pair of heels and started thinking about glass slippers and fairy tales.  They offer a customization service, meaning you actually get to design your own pair of shoes, they hand-make it and have it delivered to your door – now if that’s not the ultimate form of new-age romance I don’t know what is… and I thought ‘hey, maybe we can customize our version of the fairy tales too’

Don’t you think we owe it to ourselves?






    Posted at 18:10h, 18 June Reply

    Great perspective! Very insightful! Personally, I’ve always liked Cinderella’s story. And yes, we owe it to ourselves to have our own version of fairy tale!

      Posted at 20:57h, 18 June Reply

      Thank you Carmen! I think so too. If we cannot relate to something why not reformulate the standards..

  • Taylor Aube
    Posted at 18:14h, 18 June Reply

    What an amazing blog post! I love your analysis on the Cinderalla story and how you mentioned the “humanhood” of raising each other up. Also the shoes are incredible and look so bad ass.

      Posted at 20:55h, 18 June Reply

      Hi Taylor! I’m so glad you liked my version! Humanhood, I keep thinking about humanhood and how we should be making that extra effort to raise each other up..

  • missviclb
    Posted at 18:55h, 18 June Reply

    This was a lovely way to write it and the shoes look gorgeous! We definitely owe it to ourselves!

      Posted at 20:54h, 18 June Reply

      Like they say, life is short, buy the shoes 😉

  • Izzy Hernandez
    Posted at 21:02h, 18 June Reply

    Such a different and unique spin on a blog post about shoe shopping! I loved every sentence that went into this post! Such a good idea!

      Posted at 08:10h, 19 June Reply

      Thank you Izzy! I’m so glad you enjoyed it!

  • Kristi McAllister
    Posted at 23:05h, 18 June Reply

    I was hooked with the first line! I think that Cinderella story has ruined many a woman in hopes of Happily Ever After. Ever the hopeless romantic, I hold out the hope that it’s real! Super creative post. Love your style!

      Posted at 08:12h, 19 June Reply

      Thank you Kristi! Indeed the unrealistic expectations can be such a downer! But hey, maybe we can all have our happily ever afters and maybe our versions of happy endings are different from what we are taught!

  • Stephanie
    Posted at 02:14h, 19 June Reply

    I agree with your thoughts on the fairy tales, but also love them for the fact that they are just stories and they are fun to watch. I never did understand why he didn’t know what she looked like, though! And you can custom-create shoes? That’s awesome!!

      Posted at 08:02h, 19 June Reply

      Yes! You can either pick a design or start from scratch and sumbit your own sketch and they will make it happen! I am obsessed with the concept!

  • Lois Alter Mark
    Posted at 02:42h, 19 June Reply

    Love your modern day take on Cinderella. There would definitely be more happy endings if we fixed each other’s crowns. Love the shoes!

      Posted at 08:00h, 19 June Reply

      Amen to that Lois! Let’s live by that rule!

  • Rachel
    Posted at 04:31h, 19 June Reply

    Those gladiator heels are pretty badass. Cinderella has definitely subconsciously made me focus on shoes for being the key to looking fancy.

      Posted at 07:59h, 19 June Reply

      They are awesome aren’t they? They can make or break an outfit for sure!

  • Melanie Williams
    Posted at 08:57h, 19 June Reply

    I love this post and the story behind it all. Also, the gladiator sandals look just amazing x

      Posted at 22:18h, 19 June Reply

      They are fab aren’t they?

  • Yaroslava
    Posted at 09:09h, 19 June Reply

    Such a great post! I love your creativity and writing style. Also, the gladiators are absolutely wonderful. What did you wear them with?

      Posted at 22:17h, 19 June Reply

      Thank you! I wore them with a simple black slip dress with a massive side split!

  • Joline
    Posted at 13:11h, 19 June Reply

    Yeah. The old fairy tales we read as children have very different views of the world don’t they? And yes, we definitely don’t need rescuing we can help ourselves thank you very much!

      Posted at 22:16h, 19 June Reply

      High five to you too Joline.

  • Kayla
    Posted at 13:13h, 19 June Reply

    I’m pretty much a hopeless romantics so I like the idea of true love meeting, but I’m also a feminist and I’m like ain’t no man gonna make me a better woman. Anywho great perspective and I love all those shoes ?

      Posted at 22:15h, 19 June Reply

      Exactly! We don’t have to be either a romantic or a feminist. I see no valid reason why cannot be both! High five Kayla.

  • Angela Tolsma
    Posted at 13:46h, 19 June Reply

    When the latest Cinderella movie came out I had high hopes it would be a twist about sisterhood and family and finding faith in yourself. Sadly it was just the usual storyline. I love the picture you put with this post! And I am a huge fan of gladiator sandals!!

      Posted at 22:14h, 19 June Reply

      Yeap, I know what you mean Angela. We always have high hopes that someone will finally share a different version of the story but it rarely ever happens!

  • Sachi
    Posted at 14:42h, 19 June Reply

    This was such a creative way to spin this blog post! I loved it! Also, the shoes are amazing.

      Posted at 22:13h, 19 June Reply

      Hey Sachi! Im so glad you enjoyed the post!

  • Marjie Mare
    Posted at 15:27h, 19 June Reply

    Wow, I love your blog post, it’s nicely written. I agree with you, we should focus on the positive and encourage to help each other.

      Posted at 22:12h, 19 June Reply

      100% with you sista

  • Sophie
    Posted at 19:04h, 19 June Reply

    Love how you took a shopping trip and looked at the deeper subtle stories we can learn from old fairy tales. But also how they’re not the only thing we should learn from!

      Posted at 22:12h, 19 June Reply

      Yeap, sometimes you may be looking at gorgeous shoes and your mind wonders away 🙂

  • fashionandstylepolice
    Posted at 19:34h, 19 June Reply

    I enjoyed reading this story. Lord knows I am in need of a good shopping spree!

      Posted at 22:11h, 19 June Reply

      Let’s do it, good thing we can online shop 24/7!

  • Becca Wilson
    Posted at 22:21h, 19 June Reply

    I really enjoyed reading this new perspective. Gladiator shoes are so much fun to wear!

  • Tif
    Posted at 22:39h, 19 June Reply

    Wow what a deep thought! I do think we owe it to ourselves! I also definitely think the times have changed and gender roles aren’t as steep, which helps people create their own fairy tales!

  • Nadalie
    Posted at 22:41h, 19 June Reply

    Chelf, these shoe styles are fierce, and a shopping spree sounds exactly like the type of fairy tale I’d be into. And it’s so true, why wouldn’t they get along? I know I’d love to have sisters who’s shoes and clothing I could share.

  • Shilpa Bindlish
    Posted at 02:40h, 20 June Reply

    Applauds for the way you described the gladiators shopping spree. Loved reading it and they look gorgeous.

  • Jana
    Posted at 07:06h, 20 June Reply

    I absolutely love your point of view and this new version of Cinderella. We owe it to ourselves for sure and we deserve it.

  • Elizabeth Uchealor
    Posted at 08:18h, 20 June Reply

    Lol, I love how you reinvented the story. I believe that women should lift each other up too

  • chelsea
    Posted at 14:14h, 20 June Reply

    Those gladiators are so cute!

      Posted at 19:26h, 21 June Reply

      They are, aren’t they? Fab shoes!

  • Nikki A. Hall
    Posted at 21:01h, 20 June Reply

    I love that idea of re-writing the story!! Tell you right now I wouldn’t have stuck around and been abused. I would have left gotten a job and not spoken to a one of them again haha.

      Posted at 19:25h, 21 June Reply

      yeap! The only reasonable thing to do Nikki!

  • Di Hickman
    Posted at 23:54h, 20 June Reply

    I think this is one reason I loved Frozen so much. Girl meets boy, girl falls for boy, boy proposes, and when girl asks sister to get married sister says Heck no you just met the guy! First honest princess movie in a long while!

      Posted at 19:24h, 21 June Reply

      really? I need to watch that!

  • GiGi Eats
    Posted at 02:32h, 21 June Reply

    I truly think that if we want to be fixed, we can fix ourselves. We don’t need to be “saved” … And if anyone thinks that, then they truly should NOT be “saved” solely so they can prove to themselves that they can in fact save themselves!

      Posted at 19:23h, 21 June Reply

      my point exactly!

  • Eloise
    Posted at 04:02h, 21 June Reply

    I agree that they have made princess stories about beauty and the evil ones typically ugly, and that they need to be saved, blah-bitty, blah blah… They need to make more diverse princesses that all girls can find one to relate to (which I think they’re moving more in that direction these days!)
    anyway, great rewrite and fun shoes ; )

      Posted at 19:31h, 21 June Reply

      I’m glad you enjoyed the story Eloise!

  • Ananda
    Posted at 04:15h, 21 June Reply

    wow i LOVE this! our society accepts that we all should feel the need to have a full make-over to be made pretty for a guy or a girl, it is such cliche! =)

      Posted at 19:28h, 21 June Reply

      That’s exactly what I thought! I’ve got nothing against a make-over as long as you are having it for you! Nothing wrong with a little confidence boost!

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