You thought you’d have it all figured out by the time you’re 30 but you don’t?
Join the club.
Assuming there’s a dream job ( or a dream anything for that matter ) is setting us up for failure.
Maybe things didn’t go as planned and your current carreer is not as fast paced as you hoped it would be, but it’s ok, as long as you have a vision of where you want to get and keep trying. Even if you still have to take nightmare jobs to make rent, this experience will teach you valuable lessons that you can then turn to you advantage.
You thought you’d have it all figured out by the time you are 30 but guess what. Life does not care about those mental deadlines. Social norms have been radically modified and people do things their own way instead of following certain protocols. Figuring out who you are and what you’re doing instead of blindly copying specific behavious, is a longer journey, worth taking.
We’ve been told that the ideal body is a necessary prerequisite for health and happiness. At some point you just realise that the best version of yourself is the ultimate goal and learn to work with what you got.
Learning how to feel relaxed and self-confident in social situations is a process. If you are the kind of person who gets uncomfortable in certain social situations your mind will probably always start racing when you feel exposed and you will still have to deal with the occassional awkward silence every once in a while. And that is totally ok.
What kind of expectations did you have for your 30’s and how did that turn out? Feel free to add to the list and hopefully we’ll all learn from each other.