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Like most revelations it happened in the shower. After a metal show and an after-show-disco-party I was trying to wash the remains of a spilt lager off my hair and I realised I was smiling. Reminiscing over the night I tried to identify the reason of my happiness.

It was metalheads at disco parties.

Hear me out: It’s not that I enjoy watching people making a fool of themselves on the dance floor. I truly do, but that’s not the point I’m trying to make here.

What makes me really happy is ditching generalised beliefs about classes of people.

Musical stereotypes still hold on strong, along with each genre of music, and even though we (we as in  humanity) have half-managed to renounce racial and sex role stereotypes we still stick to our musical ones.

Peer pressure as part of human nature and the need to be accepted, be liked and fit in has led to rarely accurate (yet always hilarious) fixed clichés.

If only I had a penny for each and every time I received the passive aggressive comment:

“You listen to metal? You don’t look it!”

What exactly is “IT” hon?

Is it layers upon layers of leather? Is it distressed black skinnies and smudged eyeliner? Is it me trying to look like your expectations? ‘Cause that ain’t happening. Your expectations are yours not mine and I will not adapt to your stereotypes in any area of my life. And that’s probably the most heavy-metal thing you’ll ever hear me say.

The whole rock ‘n’ roll culture (thus all kinds of rock, punk rock and metal) started out as a tool of revolution against social stereotypes, in the hopes of forever changing the way we perceive the world around us. Only to become a stereotype within a stereotype. That’s the thing with banalities. They spread widely and fast amongst the members of each particular social group,they settle in and grow roots so deep that at some point you realise they cannot be shaken off.

The scent of lager on my hair faded away but the thought stuck in my head.

Why are we so unable to relinquish our in-group dynamics?

Apologies and long, uncomfortable hugs to my metal brothers whose brains I’ve been secretly picking in the name of research while I was contemplating the vision of the stereotypical metalhead in order to finish this article.

At some point I felt bad for not owning a black lipstick.But then I went to the disco party and danced the thoughts away. I suggest you do the same thing too. Breaking the law,breaking the law feels amazing.Do you have a clue?

If you did you’d find yourselves doing the same thing too.

That’s why looking at metalheads making a fool of their glorious selves on the dance floor makes me truly happy. Because it represents the deepest  meaning of a revolution and of independent thought. The concept of not giving a damn about norms and just being unapologetically you in any given occasion.

Now, gimme a second to smudge my eyeliner and let’s head to the party,shall we?

Comments: 31

  1. kiriakos says:

    This couldn’t better said!!!Well done!!A very mature and true article!

    • says:

      Thank you Kiriakos! Your feedback is always and forever much appreciated!

  2. Amrita says:

    True we should all live life truly with deep appreciation of it .Not by others stanndards.

    • says:

      So true Amrita!

  3. That is so true! I like all kinds of music but my heart gravitates the most to rock. When people ask what kind of music I like and I give them my answer, they’re left with, “oh you don’t look like it” face. Stereotypes are kind of funny because nowadays people don’t fit into a single one! Yes, I love rock and my favorite color may be black, but I love pink accents and I’m squishy on the inside and I wish I was a unicorn with rainbow hair!

    • says:

      Go be a badass unicorn with rainbow hair Karla dearest. Hugs and sparkles to you!

  4. Great Post!!! I love getting to know people for who they really are and not what they look like!!

    • says:

      amen to that Whitney

  5. Heeral says:

    In start when I had read yur title that it self made me read your article…!

    • says:

      well, thank you very much!

  6. Shannon says:

    Well said! Especially in times like these with social media, it’s so hard to remain to true to yourself.

    • says:

      Good point! Social media and the internet can be a useful tool to opens one’s mind but then again it can act the other way around!

  7. Huub says:

    I think metal rock is like rap was to the youngsters in the 80’s and 90’s. I, myself, don’t really like metal rock. I’m a bit more of a alternative rock chick, but love all kind of music. This was a good read btw.

    • says:

      Glad you enjoyed the post!

  8. I really enjoyed reading this post. Ditching generalised beliefs is a great way to live and think outside of the box.

    • says:

      I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂

  9. Wish I could have been there to get lost in the crowd… Love this post and how well you wrote it, put me in my feels.

    • says:

      thank you Shernette, glad you enjoyed the post!

  10. JJ4A says:

    “The whole rock ‘n’ roll culture (thus all kinds of rock, punk rock and metal) started out as a tool of revolution against social stereotypes”. Wrong, very wrong.

    Heavy metal had a very much “traditional” nature, even conservative. It was never a tool of revolution. Even in musical terms, Heavy Metal was/is SO stereotyped.

    50’s Rock n’ Roll had a revolutionary stance against what America represented, even though is was deeply rooted in the American tradition.

    Punk was the one that broke all the barriers in terms of subculture, in terms of music, in terms of everything. Whereas in Heavy Metal you had the social stereotypes of “women=sperm bank” in Punk you had feminism, Riot Grrrl movement and women being part of the scene from it’s existence. This is just an example of the contribution of Punk against social stereotypes. You can also add shock value, anarchist politics, straight edge (revolting against US youth that was getting wasted) etc etc. And in musical terms? Come on…Even from early on Punk experimented with so many different types of music genres: Funk (Gang of Four), Rap (Big Boys), Heavy Metal (Discharge), Jazz (Victim’s Family), Progressive Rock (Th’ Inbred), Disco (Blondie), Free-form avant garde (Crass) , Noise ( SPK), Blues (The Dicks), Delta Blues (Gun Club), Hard Rock (Wipers), Pop (Descendents), Synth (Devo), Jangle Pop ( The Feelies), Surf (Agent Orange), Chicano Music (The Plugz)…and so many styles. On the same time, Heavy Metal kept it’s VERY conservative nature, only to follow a tradition of 70’s Hard Rock; experimentation for Heavy Metal was/is obsolete, it is still grounded on a “safe” space where any external influences are just exceptions (or not even regarded as “true” metal by it’s fans!): Slayer with Punk, Celtic Frost with Opera, Angra with Brazilian music etc etc.

    So, no revolution whatsoever is in line with Heavy Metal. The only revolutionary act of being a heavy metal fan relies on the place that you were born; if you were born and bred in a Greek, small community village, being a metalhead is a “revolution”. But then, being in any subculture is an “act of revolution” if you live in such places 🙂

    • says:

      excellent point of view.

  11. Aine says:

    So true! Although I do find that once people have started to unwind they’ll listen to most things so long as it’s “good”. Some of my best friends are in a death metal band, but we also went to Kendrick Lamar and there’s a couple Katy Perry songs they love too

    • says:

      unwinding and letting go is key in deed. Most people live with the ‘what will others think’ kind of mindset which I personaly find very, very restrictng!

  12. Oh wow this is a new one on me. Party and metal heads disco sounds like an interesting and exciting combination x

  13. YES, CHELF! I listen to all types of music, from Hip-Hop to Metal and I’ll never forget this one experience I had. Bring Me The Horizon (who I wouldn’t exactly class as “metal”, per se) came to Perth and I was sosososo excited. I LOVE BMTH. I bought tickets and as the date got closer, I was talking to a bunch of people about it and one guy goes “Oh, you like BMTH? You don’t look like you listen to them”. I just laughed in his face haha. Stereotyping is still going strong, even in 2018 *rolls eyes*
    This is such a good post, girl. I 100% agree with everything! x

    • says:

      Hey gorgeous! Eyerolling with empathy. I feel ya! I get that to every concert I go to! Thanks for stopping by and for the costant support! Love you lots!

  14. Jewel Gibson says:

    I ‘m not really into metal but your absolutely right about how people judge you by how you look. I think it’s awesome that you don’t look like what people expect. Keep doing what you do sweets.

    • says:

      hugs to you!

  15. I have never been to a Rock ‘n’ roll concert but I would love to and experience the whole atmosphere. However, mixing and matching metalheads and disco parties sounds like an interesting concept and a whole lot of fun. Very true more people should let go and enjoy their selves and not get caught up in the stereotypes

  16. Monique says:

    Love this and love your perspective on the topic! I am ALWAYS on team “Unapologetically Be Yourself”. Always.

    • says:

      Yes yes yes Monique! Always, no matter what! No people pleasers!

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